" Peter Sheras, a clinical psychologist at the University of Virginia, and the author of "The commitment is the most important piece because, when there's commitment, that becomes obvious to the kids."Being true to yourself and your partner is key.Not every dating relationship reaches the level of commitment that necessitates including the kids.
On one hand, you can hardly contain your enthusiasm for your new love interest.Here are some guidelines for single parents to make the most of your family life and situation.They might seem general at first glance and it will be up to you to find practical ways to put them into practice in and for your family. Tip # 8: TRY AND SEE THIS FROM DIFFERENT ANGLES AND FROM YOUR CHILD’S PERSPECTIVE AS WELL Tip # 9: REESTABLISH LASTING CONNECTIONS, BONDS AND TIES THAT DEFINES WHO THIS FAMILY IS AND WHAT THIS FAMILY WANTS, SET PRIORITIES AND HAVE A PLAN Tip # 10: Encourage confidence and have some fun, rebuild and strengthen one-step at a time, laugh together, empower and engage your family Tip # 11: Sometimes follow your kids’ lead, let them take on roles and responsibilities and share the load Tip # 12: Take charge when necessary and discipline accordingly, consistently and fairly Tip # 13: Learn to love what you hate and try new things together, set boundaries and guidelines that make sense to all of you Tip # 14: Accept that emotions, roles and people change and that strong feelings, even disagreements are part of life (their and yours) Tip # 15: Sometimes rethink and revisit what you are doing as a single parent – rethink the way you are disciplining, cool off, use good judgment Tip # 16: Always tell the truth! Tip # 17: Respecting each others being, preferences, sharing and socializing with others are all important lessons to learn in the family and at home to prepare better for life Tip # 18: Recharge your own energies and load your batteries, take time and space for yourself to better help and support others Tip # 19: Make the most of every opportunity to show your family that you love, care, support and champion their best interests Tip # 20: BE YOURSELF! You do not have to be a super-single parent, hero, warrior or champion… The loving parent that your kids want and deserve to have! Being and becoming a new family is an exciting journey, even if it starts out a little rough…You may very well be enjoying a casual, lively social life with a person who is fun to be around, but with whom you simply don't imagine a future.This is critical, because once you introduce children, you leave them vulnerable to becoming attached.