This article is excerpted from Sealing the Deal and will help you move forward when your partner can't/won't COMMIT. Should you have "the talk" about where things stand? Will I ever have a committed, solid and lasting relationship?
I will share two powerful exercises that will build self-esteem and move your love life forward to commitment. Maybe you blurted out something about the future only to find your heart sinking as your Beloved pulls away and actually leaves you. Maybe you are in a long term ON-AGAIN, OFF-AGAIN relationship where one or the other of you periodically withdraws or sees other people.
It's important that you develop your sense of SELF-WORTH if you expect your partner to really value you.
In Sealing the Deal, I devote three entire chapters to not only building self-esteem but also setting the stage for commitment; how to have the talk so he will listen; and what to do if he/she won't commit.
When you reach a point where the commitment you want outpaces that of your partner’s, there is the potential, if it’s not handled carefully, for your relationship to be taken into shaky territory.
Of course if you’re in casual relationship, pushing for commitment is basically flying past your roost.
Can you handle that pain, day after day, for years? The women eventually gave their men a choice: marry me or lose me. They cut their guys off, cold turkey, no making up, getting back together, trying again.
He won’t commit to you, so it is perfectly fair for you to withhold sex from him and make yourself unavailable for the creature comforts he is looking for.
I frequently get questions like the one below about how to make your man commit to a relationship.
Well, ladies, here is the scoop – you can’t make him commit.
He says all the usual stuff, I don’t have time, I’m too busy, I don’t want a relationship with anyone blah blah blah – and I believed him – until – 2 weeks ago when I found out that when we were broken up last year for 4 months, he joined a dating agency, paid 00 for a 6 month membership, went on dates with 6 girls, went on 2nd dates with each of them, he wanted more from them but they didn’t want him – ha ha.
I also found out that he wanted somebody younger, and he wants to have more kids ( I knew that) but he wants children with someone who doesn’t already have kids.